How Should I Handle An Abusive Ex-Boyfriend?

Heidi,

Please know that we are still praying for you and will continue to do so. You are correct in saying that God has a purpose for everything. A lot of times we don't realize those purposes on this side of heaven.

I can imagine you are very fearful. Don't let your fear paralyze your faith. This situation did not take the Lord by surprise. He knows exactly what to do and what you need. He may even be trying to use this to bring you closer to Him.

Besides being faithful to the Lord and trusting Him, you also have to exercise caution as well. Try to surround yourself with a support system of people who love you during this time, preferably christians, if possible. Keep us updated on how you are doing and we will continue to pray.

What Should I Do To Prepare For An Empty Nest?

Hi Elisa,

I believe stay-at-home mothers have one of the highest callings in life. Congratulations on sticking with it.

Certainly we all need outside interests and activities. I pray that you already know the Lord Jesus. If you do not, there is a wonderful resource on our website to help you. However, I will assume you are a christian to answer your question. I don't know how involved you are in your church or if you have one at all. If not, please find a bible believing, bible preaching church to worship with.

After we come to know the Lord, he expects us to use the spiritual gifts that he gives us. We are all gifted differently. Romans 12:4-8 gives a discription of some of these gifts. If you haven't discovered your unique gifts yet, ask your pastor about taking a spiritual gifts inventory to find out what they are.

I say all of that to say this, we should use our gifts in the church and everywhere we may go. I think it is a wonderful idea to pursue outside interests. Make sure they line up with the gifts the Lord has given you. For example, if you have the gift of mercy or the gift of encouragement you might want to volunteer at a hospital to encourage the sick.

Remember, even though your children may leave, it doesn't mean that they cease to need you or look to you for an example. Pray and seek the Lord's will in this matter to see what He would have you to do and you can't go wrong.

I honor you for thinking ahead to prepare for times that you know can be trying. Stay close to the Lord and in the center of His will. That is what is best for all of us and ultimately for our children too. They are watching how we handle ourselves at all stages of life.

I will pray for you Elisa as you look to the Lord for His answer.

God Bless you.

Unappreciated

I do feel for you. I remember being right where you are as a teenager. I know the feeling of agonizing over someone who mistreats you. Only when I came to know Jesus as my Savior and looked to Him for self-worth, did I have peace. I pray that you already know Jesus. If you don't please know that you must take care of that first. There are links on our website on how to be saved. If you do know Jesus, praise the Lord! Even christians struggle at times too.

You are wise to seek out prayer as the answer. One of my favorite passages in scripture is found in Philippians 4:6-7. It says, "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

Please realize that Jesus loves and appreciates you, and even though it may not seem like it now, that is all that matters. In His time, and in His way the Lord will provide the solution you need. We sometimes make huge mistakes when we don't wait on the Lord.

Father,

I pray for this dear young woman. Please give her peace in the midst of this trying situation in her life. Help her to seek You in prayer and Bible study. I pray that she will wait on You for all of her needs. Please provide christian friends for her to lean on and pray with. Thank you that she is willing to ask for prayers, for that is where our strength comes from. Thank you for Jesus.

Amen

Seeking our Father's Blessing

Dear Father,

Thank you for this one who is looking to you to meet her needs. I pray that she will continue to look to You and Your Word for the answers she needs. You tell us that if we seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, that all these things will be added to us. (Matthew 6:33) We should also Delight ourselves in the Lord and He will give us the desires of our hearts. (Psalm 37:4) Thank you Lord for these promises. Help us to seek You and to delight in You. I pray that you will meet the physical and spiritual needs of this precious lady. In the name of our savior, Jesus,

Amen

Struggling

Dear friend,

Know that no matter how overwhelming your circumstances may feel, our Savior can help you. His word tells us in Ephesians 3:20 that "He is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us". You must put your faith and trust in Him. The most important thing you can do is to pray for your daughter and your husband. Also try to be as encouraging to your daughter and husband as you can, with actions and with words. Sometimes I find that when I am discouraged it actually helps to do things to encourage others. As Tracie said, you are certainly not alone. Pornography is a tool that Satan uses to try to destroy many families. I will pray for you and your family as you try to follow what the Lord leads you to do.

Dear Father,

I pray for this precious mother and wife. Please give her Your strength to make it through these trying times in her family. Help her to be a light that reflects Your love to her family and her world. Encourage her as she tries to encourage others. Help her husband to overcome this problem with pornography, and help this daughter to find her identity in You. It is only there that she can find self-esteem and pride. Lord, even though it is hard to grow up without a father figure, help us to remember that You are the only Father we really need. Father, heal this family in a way that only you can.

In the sweet name of Jesus,
Amen.

Update: Prayer for salvation and healing of mother

Dear Lord,

I pray for this faithful sister. She is continuing to do what You have called her to do in the middle of very trying circumstances. Please give her the grace, strength, and endurance she needs to keep on being a witness for You. Thank You that You do stand with us even when it seems we are alone. Please encourage my sister's heart and give her peace. Thank You that You hear our cries.

In the name of Jesus,
Amen

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